Monday, May 4, 2009

Kids' in Danger

Salon has an interview with Lenore Skenazy, who argues that the 24-hour cable news culture has made us so paranoid about our kids that they are not allowed to be kids, even they are safer today than they were 30 years ago. While I don't necessarily disagree with her larger point, this quote stood out to me:
We don't appreciate how great these times are in terms of parents really not having to worry about their kids' safety. Abe Lincoln had four kids. One made it to adulthood.
Of course this is probably one factor why parents are more paranoid about their kids today- very few people have 4 kids- in developed countries you typically have 1 or 2. This means that while a Lincoln can "afford" to have his second son die at age 4 without having his whole descendants wiped out, most American parents can't afford that kind of uncertainty.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

The Heir and the Spare

Anonymous said...

This will be in a correlations with the suburbanization of America and increase and the delay of average age of entry into the workforce from 18 to the 20s.

If you grow up on a family farm, you have to pitch in as soon as you're able to. But now there's far fewer family farms, there's less apprenticeships.

If you grew up in the city, you had to help out at the family business after school. or were expected to get into manufacturing or a trade job that was in reach.

today, in the suburbs, parents are under pressure to be a good parent, a soccer mom, and if you're not as dedicated as your neighbor in raising your kids, well then maybe you're perceived as a bad parent. One parent takes the kids to the bus stop, soon everyone will take their kids of the bus stop.

Good for Lenore to let her kids find their way back on the New York subway.

Yang said...

Suburbia as factor makes a lot of sense.

Although as Duncan Black tirelessly point out, there's suburbia, and there is suburbia. Me and my little brother walked to school in South Pasadena our entire time there.

Judy said...

Umm, yeah, ask John about what it cost to have our children... Like Octomom we had 4 embryos implanted because history indicated the chances of success were extremely poor and we were on our third round of in vitro with our second egg donor.

Oh, and I walked to school in Diamond Bar... but once it became a distinct possibility of going to high school in neighboring Pomona, where there were all out gang wars with gunshots shattering schoolbus windows, my parents frakin' moved to OC! I have vivid memories of ducking to avoid gunfire while my mother drove through downtown Pomona to attend church services. We eventually went elsewhere, which, in my parents' religion, you are not allowed to do.

And that was about 14 years after moving OUT of Utah ;-)

I still think that the move out of Utah was the better of the two ;-P